Olivia's Story

So I recently buzzed my hair. All of my friends have been really supportive of my decision. I haven't actually experienced any problems because of it before last night. I went out to liquor pitches at Lucky's to meet some friends who were already there. After stepping into the crowd, almost immediately a girl I've never met before walks up to me and puts her hand on my head, while saying, "Oh my god, can I touch your hair?" I pulled away and said, "No" and kept pushing into the crowd looking for my friends. I stopped in the middle of the crowd to look around, and I suddenly felt a large hand on the back of my head and I whirl around. Imagine the following conversation talking place by yelling, because it's super loud and crowded in Lucky's. There's a bro-ish looking guy there who looks dumbfounded at me and goes, "Your hair is so short." I am notoriously bad at dealing with people in these situations, so I blurted out, "Fuck off." He looks taken aback and goes, "Woah, you don't have to be a bitch about it. I was just gonna tell you that you still look hot." I'm really mad, so I just say, "It's so rude to touch people without asking them. And I don't care how you think I look." Fortunately I spotted my friends while talking to him, and as soon as I got over to them, they were also talking about leaving because there were too many people. We left pretty quickly, and I did tell my friends that people touched my head without asking, but I'm weirdly embarrassed about giving them further details. It just felt so uncomfortable. I take for granted how wonderful my friends are, because they always ask before they touch my hair, or even hold my hand or something. But two people in close proximity touching my hair without asking felt so gross, especially because the guy felt the need to reassure me he still found me attractive. Thank god drunk bros in Lucky's find me attractive with buzzed hair, that was definitely a concern of mine :P

Happened on August 24, 2014

Incident reported by target

Bystander Action? No

Harassment Types: Sexual